Eve's Guide For Regular Guys: Episode 5 - Timelines and Wishboards

27:01 Eve's Guide For Regular Guys episode 5 / 14 Feb 19, 2017 23 comments 3994 941

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This week I talk about two specific things - the life you thought you'd have by now, and how to start making what you want real.

Links mentioned:

Wishboard 1

Wishboard 2

Wishboard 3

Wishboard 4

Wishboard 5

My Jeepsy

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  • julieanna on 2017-11-20 21:47:07 (UTC)

    OK so I guess I never commented on anything because I thought you might think it was weird that you have a fan who is a straight female here. But I created a commenting account just so I can comment on this because it was so amazing. First of all let me say I’ve been listening to you for a couple of months ever since I stumbled across you on literotica (Eve’s Loving Femdom... holy hell that was hot!) then found your website. The whole sex positive, male positive vibe that you go with is just so up my alley. I didn’t think it existed out there. I’m in my 30s, and still haven’t found the one for me. My last relationship ended two years ago and was so messed up that it screwed with my mind and I haven’t been able to date since. For a long time there I just couldn’t trust men anymore (I was never a really trusting person to begin with, but I had felt this was different and put myself out there) and was making a whole bunch of generalizations about them in my head, “they’re all a bunch of ———-“ (fill in the blanks) probably trying to protect myself. But then one day I realized that the issue was that I didn’t trust MYSELF anymore, or even think I was worthy- and THAT was a problem. So I started therapy. I had been before, in the past due to anxiety and other issues, so I had a really good therapist I was able to call. We’re working through it. But I feel like you are also my “therapy” - once I found your page, it gave me hope for what could be. A warm, loving, caring relationship with a normal, regular, sweet, caring guy. I love reading all the comments that your ‘princes’ leave for you, because it lets me have hope and faith in the world that there are really nice normal, caring, regular, sweet guys out there. And I love listening to your audios because your voice is so soft, soothing, loving, sexy, and it’s such a good example of what could be shared between a man and a woman. It also gives me some good ideas LOL! Anyway the reason I had to comment on this one, is because it just spoke to me so deeply. I was sitting here driving home from work, catching up on your Eves Guide, (even though it’s for guys I was curious!) But this one, your whole explanation of timelines etc. just spoke straight to my soul. When you said “Allow yourself to grieve for the life you thought you would have by now” I literally had to pull over because I was sobbing at that point. Wow. You are one amazing, smart, wise, wonderful woman. Keep it up!

    • A Eve on 2017-11-21 20:31:04 (UTC)

      Thank you Julieanna! I have quite a few female listeners of all sexual orientations, and I appreciate them all ❤️

  • MarkHere on 2017-04-18 22:55:27 (UTC)

    I love the wishboard idea. I did my own alternative version of it a few years ago - a wishbox. I found pics online that represented the things I wanted to attract into my life, printed them out and put them in a medium-sized wooden box - and then every few days, I'd sit with the box, pull out the stack of pics, look at each one and visualize those things existing in my life. And it absolutely worked.
    Time to haul out the box again. :)

    • A Eve on 2017-04-19 10:39:36 (UTC)

      I know, it's amazing how well it works. It always works for me, I have a wishboard on the wall near my desk and I add to it all the time.

  • MadWithLust on 2017-03-13 11:16:34 (UTC)

    Oh, you! You're so full of good ideas! I've never really thought about how much pressure I've put on myself over these invisible timelines. I think everyone is taught to dream big but the sad reality is that a lot of those dreams don't happen before we're 25. And the idea of grieving over them, it totally makes sense.

    And the wishboard seems like a great idea too! Any ideas on where to put it so that I see it every day but where it stays somewhat private? The pictures for the goal of "awesome sex" might be hard to explain to a guest... :P

    P.S. I would totally read that parallel universe novel! :D

    • A Eve on 2017-03-13 18:32:48 (UTC)

      haha thanks MWL! 💋

      Some people put theirs on the back wall of their closet so they see it when they get dressed every morning. Others put it on the back of their medicine cabinet door, etc. :D

      • MadWithLust on 2017-03-13 22:42:51 (UTC)

        Oh, those are good spots! Thanks!

        • A Eve on 2017-03-16 12:05:23 (UTC)

          💋

  • Arcturus on 2017-03-12 03:59:41 (UTC)

    It's definitely a problem, getting stuck waiting for last year :-P

    • A Eve on 2017-03-12 16:03:48 (UTC)

      oh you...

  • JimHumblestrong on 2017-02-27 22:29:13 (UTC)

    Hey Jeepsy. I handed in mine a year ago, a Cherokee 1998 that I had for 16 years. Too thirsty for it's own good, but otherwise a dream come true.

    • A Eve on 2017-02-28 10:53:13 (UTC)

      Mine was a manual transmission and she got great mileage...oh I miss that girl...

  • Jandrusel on 2017-02-22 20:00:00 (UTC) (edited)

    I remember having my quarter-life crisis at 21, three years ago. Almost a year and a half of depression, anxiety, and uncertainty about everything. I know pretty well the feeling of 'if I had done this / if only I could knew then'. They're an easy way to feel sorry for yourself and your life. And once you're wallowing yourself in self-pity, stopping is so bloody hard...

    I watched other people's amazing drawings and art, and I wondered: 'If only I hadn't stopped drawing, I could be like them'. I heard and watched other musicians and despise myself immediately: 'I suck at this. Wish I could've started playing an instrument when I was a kid. I could be a genius by now'.

    Nowadays, I've made peace with the fact that 'what-ifs' are only good in movies and books. My life will unfold in many ways I can't imagine right now. I'll never set a foot on Mars's surface or write the most wonderful symphony, but hey, just like the jazz song says: 'There Will Never Be Another You'. In all human history, there's no one like you. Make peace with it. Accept your virtues. And go on your merry way. We obsess too much with deadlines, goals and objectives sometimes...

    Even though law of attraction always seemed fake to me, I may give a try to this wishboard thing. Gonna fill it with pictures of dogs, forests, and lots of guitars. Maybe a naked lady with a guitar. Or two, better.

    Thank you, Eve. But now I feel sad for Jeepsy. Such a loyal car :(

    • A Eve on 2017-02-22 22:41:11 (UTC)

      Well you sound like an amazing You to me, Jan. And you are still quite young, there really is so much ahead of you, especially for someone intelligent, thoughtful and caring like you seem to be. Yes, two naked ladies with guitars. Go for it.

      And Jeepsy thanks you, she was a dear girl 💋

      • Jandrusel on 2017-02-23 17:36:01 (UTC) (edited)

        Gosh, Eve. You make me blush so easily! I'm going to be smiling like a fool for the rest of the day :D

        You too are awesome, sexy, funny, smart and your voice is like warm duvet in the middle of winter. But you already know that :P

        • A Eve on 2017-02-23 20:48:54 (UTC)

          Aww, keep smiling darlin 💋

    • A Eve on 2017-02-22 22:39:14 (UTC)

      Aww, sweetie...I'm glad it can bring you some comfort, I'm sorry it's a tough time for you. Here, big hug 😘

  • joetinla1967 on 2017-02-20 14:49:57 (UTC)

    Hello Miss Eve,
    I just wanted to say that I'm a firm believer in vision boards I've had them for decades and they do help motivate me in many ways one example was about ten or so years ago I was feeling down on myself for not having children at my age, so I happen to add a picture of an adorable family to my board and focused on that, well as you've seen I was blessed with not one but two of the most beautiful babies a man could've wished for, I still have a lot to accomplish and I know that with continued focus will get everything on that board. I also keep repeating to myself to never stop trying.
    Please take care of yourself because this flu is a pretty bad one it's taken me about four weeks and I'm still not 100%, oh and for the record you sound great.
    Thank you.


    • A Eve on 2017-02-20 20:03:39 (UTC)

      Thanks Joe - that's so awesome, you actually got your wish for a family, that's so incredibly sweet. ❤️

  • billymacorbuddy on 2017-02-20 00:35:12 (UTC)

    No joke, I thought I'd be MacGyver by now. Or more realistically, an archeologist or paleontologist. None of those things panned out. But I have a pretty good life and I would honestly feel guilty about grieving for not achieving those things. Now, asked what I want in life; a simple question, but I can't come up with simple answers. Maybe I'm over thinking this?

    I love Jeepsy by the way, complete with grill guard, duct tape, and a healthy undercoat of rust. I'm a Jeep man myself, but I drive a Wrangler. I like to go topless in the summer. ;)

    • A Eve on 2017-02-20 20:05:29 (UTC)

      Well if you're not someone who's troubled by timeline stuff, then you're ahead of the game. And who didn't want to be MacGyver?

      Yeah, that picture was taken just before she got scrapped. The engine was still fine, it was the unibody frame that was rusted out and couldn't be repaired. I was so sad to see her go, but she went to someone who had a Cherokee, so in a way she was like an organ donor, her parts living on in another car 😢

      • billymacorbuddy on 2017-02-20 22:21:16 (UTC)

        What troubles me about timeline stuff is when other people try to force the timelines that they've set up for themselves on me. I have people around me that are constantly asking me what my relationship status is, the implication being that I'm an incomplete person for being single. That bothers me, because I know otherwise.

        It's okay, you can cry for Jeepsy. It's a Jeep thing. I understand. :)

        • A Eve on 2017-02-22 22:39:43 (UTC)

          I'm so glad, everyone else thought I was nuts. 😢