Eve's Guide for Regular Guys: Episode 10 - Your Daily Routine

38:47 Eve's Guide For Regular Guys episode 10 / 14 May 27, 2017 37 comments 4437 703

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So a few things about this episode - listening back I realize I sound a bit giddy at the beginning, but I was just a bit over caffeinated :P And I goofed and said something a little different for my closing than I usually do. But who needs perfection, right?

This episode focuses on some daily routine things you can do to help improve your well being and confidence and make yourself more attractive in the truest sense of the word - attracting people, including women, to you.

I’m certain some things are old hat to you at this point, but maybe you haven’t thought about some of the things I mention. It occurred to me that a lot of the things I talk about in these very practical episodes are things that will almost certainly become a part of your life when you meet a woman, so in a way I’m filling that role for you now.

Links mentioned

Morning stretches

Simple stretches for larger guys

Sunscreen guide

Effect of UV rays on our skin

Positive podcasts

Food and Table Manners

The End of Overeating - a great book about the food industry

Table manners video - this one is intentionally campy but fun.

The Art of Manliness video on table manners

Lunch box and thermos options, meal prep etc

Just some ideas

And some more

Mom goes through her kids' lunches for the week, some good suggestions here for lunch at work

Exercises

10 minute exercises at work

Mid-morning stretches

Bedsheets

Bedsheet buying guide

Pajamas!

Vintage pajamas!


Other audios in Eve's Guide For Regular Guys

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  • MoonlightDreamer on 2017-05-31 19:21:38 (UTC)

    Another great Guide Eve. A big thank you for these as they are so helpful. You can think a lot is commen sense but sometimes it's the basic things we tend to overlook or forget. I never strech when getting up and staggering to the bathroom in the mornings but now I realise all those things you might not do or forget. I had a quick look the other day in the supermarket for sunscreen and was shocked at how much they cost. You would think something so important for peoples health and to prevent things like Skin cancer that those things would be made more cheeper but alas no.

    Listened to this the other night and it's informitive and very relaxing. Can't wait for guide 11

    • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-06-01 04:09:14 (UTC)

      I just got a couple tubes of Alba Botanica facial sunscreen. It's broad spectrum SPF 40, water resistant, emollient, doesn't have controversial ingredients like oxybenzone or retinyl palmitate, feels comfortable on the skin, is certified vegan and not tested on animals. And when you squeeze it out, it glops out a fairly generous amount to ensure you're applying enough coverage to get the advertised protection.

      I agree, the cost adds up especially when you have to apply generously every couple hours, less if you sweat. But if the payoff is younger-looking skin with a lowered risk of developing melanoma then it's worth it. :)

      • A Eve on 2017-06-01 13:52:49 (UTC)

        Good for you, I'm so glad you took the trouble to go for a product not tested on animals. The cosmetic industry is rife with horror stories about how they torture these poor creatures, and it's completely uneccessary. Thank you for being so conscientious 💋

        • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-06-01 14:51:30 (UTC) (edited)

          You're welcome, and to be otherwise would be going against the grain in yoga-happy, kale/acai smoothie-gulping, dog-loving Vancouver. :P Plus it's another opportunity to practice mindfulness in my everday choices.

          It's obvious you're passionate about this. Perhaps it could be a topic of future discussion in an audio, someday when you're not so busy. :)

          Hey, and thanks for the link you gave Lea. I'm adding it to my browser's bookmarks. EDIT: The photo of the beagle behind the bars, huddled in the corner with a hairless hind leg is heartbreaking. :(

      • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-06-01 05:43:15 (UTC)

        CharlieRomeoLima, you did it again! I stand enlightened by your knowledge as I had no idea some sunscreen may not be vegetarian friendly! Might be a problem for me as the one I'm using I've not checked for on this, this would be through testing like some toiletries and cosmetics I imagine. Not animal products in them of course. Lea. Is Alba expensive? Lea.

        • A Eve on 2017-06-01 13:59:05 (UTC)

          I could write a book on all the things you have to look out for if you're 1) against animal testing and b) vegetarian or vegan. It's unbelievable.

          Most food these days will say 'suitable for vegetarians', but many don't, especially in North America. I mean honestly, did you know Jell-o was made from cow cartilage? It's really, really tough, but I think it's worth it.

          Some companies will even fudge their 'against animal testing' statements by saying things like "we do not test the finished product on animals" (which means they test all the components on animals) or 'we are against animal testing and look for alternatives' (which means they still do it.)

          You can check here to see which companies are certified cruelty-free (I buy all my makeup, hair products, etc from cruelty free brands only, most of the time they aren't that much more expensive).

          • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-06-02 05:36:11 (UTC)

            It's staggering isn't it how such cruelty goes hand in hand still with some of the basics of everyday life! Haribos have pork fat in I believe too. I've got a habit of scrutinising labels after Mum's been shopping, annoys her a little but I take it very seriously. There are alternatives which can be cruelty free, trick is where to find them and I cannot accept that in order to sustain ourselves we must eat other animals,not in this society. Morally I think it is indefensible and ethically also however I'm not a crusading nut that will force my opinion on others to convert them. For lots of folk meat is perfectly acceptable, just that I think they're missing the boat!I used to be a fairly conscientious shopper of cruelty free products but our Bodyshop closed some years ago. I remain ovo/lacto vegetarian. I agree with you CharlieRomeoLima, it's better to use something rather than nothing but your screen is a good deal! If you can look at the amount of products marketed at fellas I think we are getting a bit better at skincare but you've probably got a good set of advisors too that will be hard to ignore! I'm going to check out the list though Eve, I do thank you for that! Lea.

        • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-06-01 11:57:09 (UTC) (edited)

          Thanks Lea! I got it on sale under $10 CDN (€6.50) each, so the price wasn't bad. I saw another one that was similarly organic called Goddess Garden, but it was twice the price for not much more sunscreen. That one might be just paying for the name as Eve said below.

          No matter which one you get your hands on, it's better than nothing. Us men have the advantage of having thicker, oilier skin than women, but I think many of us, including myself, have relied on this too much while developing a lifetime habit of neglecting proper skincare.

          P.S. I have the benefit of drawing from the collective wisdom of three sisters when it comes to these things, so I can't take all the credit. :P

    • A Eve on 2017-05-31 23:15:36 (UTC)

      Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it! I know sunscreen can be expensive but keep in mind that you don't have to pay for the name. Basic, store-brand stuff works just as well.

      • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-06-01 05:35:46 (UTC)

        Ah, right, good tip Eve! Some big brands bring a tear to the eye with such high price tags!

    • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-06-01 05:45:41 (UTC)

      I wish I could devour books like this, slow reader but the positive being I retain a lot. My Library sees many books I take disappear for a long time though! Lea.

    • A Eve on 2017-05-31 23:15:53 (UTC)

      It's really eye-opening, isn't it?

  • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-05-28 07:39:19 (UTC)

    So good to get the Guides back again Eve as you do really get the grey matter working overtime! I think the tip on sunscreen I take on board the most. It's something I've used only sparingly or and this will make you yell, not at all! Only the otherday I began my shift without, I work outdoors, needless to say I am still feeling unable to loofah my upper body! Would you say that tanned skin is unattractive to most women in general? When I head indoors to complete my shift on my sections I've used your tip on treats, in reciprocity to a particular co worker and it has been good for getting little conversations going, even with colleagues on different sections of the building. Apart from one. An individual that despite all attempts to make contact with, eye contact, verbal greeting and treat offers, steadfastly refuses to engage in even casual conversations with me, she will not even make eye contact! Would you continue to go on attempting to make efforts to include her with all the others as a valued colleague and acquaintance or would it be more appropriate to back away entirely and accept defeat? I also like your tip on pod casts. Very inspiring and although not strictly pod casts, the mp3 versions of all your audios are perfect for me even whilst I work outdoors, making my litter pick rounds but not when I go indoors! Being totally biased toward Marvel and never having seen any DC until Suicide Squad I've avoided all DC promos but Wonder Woman may be my second foray! Anyone giving Kaiser Bill a kicking goes up in my estimation, especially one so damned sexy! The little faux pas at end seems just a little one if I think I'm right in guessing where it comes almost literally at the end. No great problem though, ease up on yourself a little Eve, we're all pretty easy going fellas here and of course devoted followers so can take it in our stride! Thanking you our Lady Eve! Lea.

    • A Eve on 2017-05-28 21:24:30 (UTC)

      I think your co-worker is a good example of two things - first, not everyone is friendly or outgoing, and second, not everyone is going to be compatible with you. You can't make everyone warm up to you, no matter what you do. She'll have her own reasons for not wanting to be friendly, and you'll likely never know why.

      I wouldn't call it 'admitting defeat' - you don't know what her story is and you shouldn't necessarily blame yourself. But I would say she's made it clear she's not interested, so I would back away, as you say. Don't be rude to her, but don't try too hard to become friends, it's a bit of a dry well. Look for people who are more receptive instead.

      • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-05-31 05:15:50 (UTC)

        I believe you may be right Eve, there are many other ladies on my team, in fact I think the ratio is 10-1 and they are very friendly.I feel bad that I can't treat the one in particular in the same manner as the rest, she seems like she's having a really bad day every time I see her! It's just my way of trying to cheer her up, hate to see someone suffering. Yet I readily accept your advice on this, It's likely a problem that she will always feel she has to keep private and becoming friendlier may lead to it being revealed. On the other hand she may be entirely disinterested in me and wanting to be friends. That's of course everyone's right to decide upon and nothing can or should alter this. I shall respect her very clear signals on this. Thank you Eve and Georgio36 too for your kind thoughts!

      • Georgio36 on 2017-05-28 22:07:36 (UTC)

        Eve that's some great advice you gave this person. You are simply the best 😊. I even found it helpful lol. @Lea, i hope & pray things will get better for you. This was just one person who wasn't interested. There's tons more awesome people out there for you. So keep a good attitude & the right one will come your way 🌟

        • A Eve on 2017-05-29 19:10:06 (UTC)

          Thanks Georgio 😘

  • Georgio36 on 2017-05-28 05:12:34 (UTC) (edited)

    Eve as i was listening to this, i was like she soo is right! I think my daily routine is almost as similar to the tips you provided. Im not really a breakfast person but when i can; i usually get a poptart & some green tea in the morning lol😄. Now those stretches sound like a great idea. Normally i get up an hour early cuz i have to have to brush my hair & untangled those curls of mine & wash up & etc. Before i leave the house; i always say a quick prayer. That really helps keep my spirits up. Also affirmations help a lot too during the day. I recommend reading Joel Osteen : The Power Of I Am. That book has really helped my confidence along with your sweet nothings.

    I promise to get Egyptian cotton everything & to eat smaller portions & eat slowly lol. At my old job; i used to bring brownies & make coffee for people. I always to try to be friendly. You mentioned things you are grateful for; Im grateful for the new wonder woman movie too! 😊. She's a total Goddess. I like strong female characters. Also im very grateful for your kindness & audios🌸. Your sweet nothings always help me sleep. Forget sleep aid or porn when we got your beautiful work lol. Self love is important & so i try to do that & say my prayers before bed & get things ready for next day. So thank you for helping me grow as a person. May each day ahead be a blessing for you. Mushyness aside lol; take care until i can hear you again on this site

    • A Eve on 2017-05-28 21:25:30 (UTC)

      Great ideas, I'm glad to hear you're already doing so many good things for yourself. 💋

  • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-05-28 00:54:09 (UTC) (edited)

    I'm grateful I can listen to audios like yours. Congrats on your tenth in this series!

    Quality sleep for me involves switching off screens 30 mins. before bedtime - the blue light wavelengths emitted disrupts normal melatonin function, a factor contributing to insomnia. I work early mornings and through this I've learned that an earlier bedtime matters. Maybe REM sleep is better before midnight, but I feel much more rested getting up at 3 in the morning than as a night owl waking at 7. Wonderful having two hours to get ready. Can stretch, not rush through morning grooming, steep my tea longer and savour while scanning newsfeeds. The complex carb of steel-cut oats with a bit of maple syrup in my breakfast keeps hunger at bay till noon. Will apply sunscreen more regularly - that UV video you linked, what an eye-opener. Cutting out sugary foods/beverages also helps prevent premature aging via glycation of dermal collagen (so..less donuts and timbits 😭)!

    Exercise. Sometimes I skip the bus part of my commute and leisurely jog the 15 blocks to the train station - morning air's so crisp and cool before the day's traffic pollution hits. Since adding pushups, squats, and lunges to my cardio I've lost 15 pounds. I don't look it, but I feel physically better than I did in my 20s. I'll try the stretch routine you linked to get more limber. Egyptian cotton - love it in shirts and bath towels so I'll try sheets too. Also got new firm synthetic (no goose feathers!) pillow suitable for side-sleepers. Works wonders keeping spine properly aligned. Doubt I can be strict vegetarian like you but ever since I could shop for myself I've been mindful to choose cruelty-free options for everything else whenever possible.

    Eve, thank you, and I hope you never get tired of people telling you how awesomesauce you are for creating these self-improvement podcasts, on top of all the eroticism/cuddlies/humour you already bring to the table. I liked the over-caffeinated, giddy, enthusiastic Eve! 🙃 If you read this on the 28th, Happy International Masturbation Day!

    P.S. Wonderwoman was the best part of the overly dour Dawn of Justice. And I'm FINALLY, FINALLY going to watch Rogue One. :)

    • A Eve on 2017-05-28 21:26:32 (UTC)

      haha good for you! I know you'll enjoy it.

      And good for you on your weight loss, that's a great accomplishment. And no, I don't actually get tired of hearing how awesomesauce I am haha!

      Happy International Masturbation Day to you too!

      • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-05-28 23:43:18 (UTC)

        Good, because you are and don't let nobody ever tell you different! You're right, I did absolutely enjoy this Star Wars story! And then after I finished the viewing, I find out you went and posted two new audios. Thank you Eve, and bless your heart!

        On how this day has turned out, I believe Nux said it best.

        • A Eve on 2017-05-29 19:10:34 (UTC)

          hahah you pick the best gifs, I love 'em xox

          • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-05-29 22:05:21 (UTC)

            Thanks, I was inspired by the reigning GWA Queen of gifs, /u/pennyforyourtautbod!

            • A Eve on 2017-05-31 23:18:55 (UTC)

              oh she's the best, hands down! Makes me proud to be Canadian :P

              • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-06-01 04:44:56 (UTC)

                I can say the same about you. :P Just one more month to 150! Gotta stock up on swag! 🍁

  • billymacorbuddy on 2017-05-27 23:01:42 (UTC)

    Nothing wrong with being a little bit giddy. It sets a positive mood and can even be a little contagious. As for the episode I have a few things I'd like to add. First, the sun. I spend my life coated in sunscreen, every bit of exposed skin gets covered in it. That's the first thing I do when I get to work. But also, I wear a good hat. If you're out in the sun all day you really need a full brim hat. It will protect your ears, the back of your neck, and keep the sun out of your eyes, which also need protection. I recommend one from Tilley Endurables (another good thing from Canada :P). They're expensive but well worth the money. Yoga, an excellent form of exercise and stretching. It wont get you a six pack or let you run a marathon, but you'll feel great. And if you take the time to breath and meditate at the end, it's also a great way to unwind. Sleep. If you're having trouble sleeping consider keeping the cat out of the room. I remember reading somewhere that cats are one of the leading causes of poor sleep. And for an alarm, the iphone now has a bedtime setting. It can tell you when to go to bed and will wake you up with a gentle tone. I'll never go back to an alarm again. Sheets. Eve, after one of your videos I almost asked you what kind of sheets you had, but I thought that might have come off as creepy so I didn't. But I will now. What kind of sheets do you have? They look so damn cozy. Pajamas. No thank you, I'm a free man. ;)

    • A Eve on 2017-05-28 21:27:25 (UTC)

      haha I have a kind of flannel sheet, it's not my ideal but it's the only one that will fit my bed. I do keep looking though - my favourite is the Gäspar sheets from Ikea, they are so incredibly soft!

      • billymacorbuddy on 2017-05-28 23:27:38 (UTC)

        Unfortunately I don't have an Ikea near me and the Gäspa set isn't available online. I've got my eye on a set from LLBean that's supposed to be soft like a cotton t-shirt. The ones I have now are OK but nothing special, certainly nothing I look forward to climbing into at night.

        • A Eve on 2017-05-29 19:11:48 (UTC)

          well whatever works for you, I find the higher thread count ones tend to last longer through the washing cycle. You'll never regret it once you find a set that just envelops you like slipping into a cool lake on a hot summer night...sigh

          • billymacorbuddy on 2017-05-29 21:26:51 (UTC) (edited)

            sigh... Oh, that does sound refreshing. Like a Crystal clear Lake at the summer Camp grounds, with the light of the moon glistening on the water. sigh...

            Wait... Did you hear something? It sounded like foot steps. That man, is he wearing a hockey mask?!?! Run for it Eve!

            Hm, maybe I'll just stick with the sheets I have. :P

            • A Eve on 2017-05-31 23:19:36 (UTC)

              hahaha all this just from thinking about sheets! You have quite the imagination!

              I haven't seen you post any of your finds on instagram lately, how's that going?

              • billymacorbuddy on 2017-05-31 23:54:24 (UTC)

                hehe, the CYOA had me in a role playish mood that day. :P

                I actually haven't been out in a while. With rainy weather, home projects, and working extra hours it's been hard to find the time to go. May is always the busiest month for me. I do plan to get out soon though. And I want to try river walking (or mudlarking) looking for arrowheads. I've never done that and it looks pretty fun. But I'll post something soon, I still have some old finds I haven't shown yet.

  • Murtaugh83 on 2017-05-27 22:44:34 (UTC)

    Hi Eve, In this episode you touched on so many things that I was doing as a result of being more mindful of myself and my routines. The morning episode really got the ball rolling, I find that for me your suggestions have put me in better frame of mind to learn about things that I enjoy. I have rediscovered some old friends like Whitman, Dickens, Stevenson and Kerouac. To pack a lunch and have a few minutes escape in a book is an underrated pleasure. Also in the mindfulness vein, I stopped at a local shelter about a month ago and adopted a dog. She is so similar to one I had as a boy and it seemed made to be. This added dimension in the daily routine has been such a welcome addition. The changes have been gradual but great, as incongruous as a burly guy sitting on his cooler reading Leaves of Grass after a long day of work. So thanks Eve also Holly says hi too.

    • A Eve on 2017-05-28 21:28:10 (UTC)

      That is just awesome, I'm so delighted to hear that! Want to share a picture of Holly?

      • Murtaugh83 on 2017-05-28 22:33:23 (UTC)

        Hi Eve, Thanks for the compliment and I will send a few snaps of the Holly. I can't say enough about this series and you. It is so amazing to have such a person in my corner, you patch me up from life's hurts, give wise council and do so with such womanly grace.

        • A Eve on 2017-05-29 19:12:20 (UTC)

          Aww, that's just lovely. Thank you so much ❤️