Under the Covers with Eve - Episode 16: (Don't)* Meet a Woman in 2016

28:50 Under the Covers with Eve episode 16 / 34 Dec 27, 2015 16 comments 1780 329

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In this last episode of the year, I share some thoughts on you how you can (Not)* Meet a Woman in 2016. Just listen, you'll see what I mean! :D

  • Ideas for becoming a bit more social
  • Anecdotes and other hilarity
  • The blunt truth about hitting on hotties
  • And much much more!

Have a wonderful New Year's, and thank you to everyone who made Eraudica's first year online so amazing. I love you guys! 💋

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  • leytod on 2016-01-14 17:46:59 (UTC)

    In 2014 your sexy voice made me want to hear you read everything to phone books and cooking recipies. In 2015 I became hooked on your Under The Covers series. In 2016, UTC is what I most look forward to hearing more of. A beautiful woman with increadible voice and smarter-than-me brains too? PRONG! I'm awake!

    • A Eve on 2016-01-14 20:45:54 (UTC)

      Haha aww, thank you! That's so nice to hear!

  • cuddle_with_me on 2015-12-29 11:32:56 (UTC) (edited)

    This is great advice throughout. 💕 It's a bit like how the people who get rich almost never got there by wanting money while there are so many people who shot for that and missed. They get a secondary, perverse incentive and it blinds them.

    You opened my eyes a while back when you first described that women aren't dismissive of people who are "nice", it's just that too often, they don't show enough of what they would have to offer, what there would be for the woman to love, why this is someone who you'd want to be around and share your life with. What "bad boys" exude is at least that they don't see it as strange that people would be attracted to them, and so people are.

    Being comfortable in your own skin is basically giving people license to imagining themselves together with you without needing a repair kit to fix you all up first so that you may love them back. Some people might not mind bringing the repair kit, but it's unnecessarily limiting.

    I'd say hit on whoever you'd like. Maybe the seemingly superficial hottie (and by hottie I don't mean it in the absolutely super hottie sense like "playboy model", just "attractive enough to be otherwise pretty intimidating to you") isn't superficial, and has just been waiting for someone of the type who's usually shy to overcome their fears. Maybe she's not impressed by people hitting on anything that moves and to which she's replaceable, but values the effort of someone who has to overcome something and thinks this person will give her more. Maybe she's been afraid to talk to you. (This is beginning to sound like a guide to encountering animals... "she's just as afraid of you as you are of her"... 😉) But as Eve says, also be prepared for it to not be the case. And if it isn't, also be prepared to dust yourself off, get over it and not resent her for not immediately liking you.

    Resentment in general is a horrible idea. No one ever owes anyone else love. It's all about convincing people why what you could give them is something they need. And that may sound like smarmy sales tactics, but it just means not hiding the part of yourself that they could see themselves loving. And shyness, for all its charm, does amount to hiding it, as Eve so brilliantly points out.

    I think it's been a very lovely first year for Eraudica and it's been so sweet seeing you take this stage and make it yours. I hope it's been all you wanted and that year two will go even better. 😘🎈❤️

    • A Eve on 2015-12-29 20:14:17 (UTC)

      Thank you so much! It has been even better than I could have imagined, and I can't wait to see what the next year brings

  • IListenForTheArticles2 on 2015-12-28 19:43:09 (UTC)

    I'm saposexual. If I met a woman with your wit/humor, I'd find her attractive.

    Grats on one year and Happy New Year!

    • A Eve on 2015-12-29 20:13:46 (UTC)

      Yay!!! We need more people like you!

      And thank you, same to you!

  • Jandrusel on 2015-12-28 19:26:08 (UTC)

    Thinking about it, it's a really good piece of advice. Sometimes, I get too caught up in the process of 'finding someone' that I forget all the other things I already have. You should be working on your social skills first, then you can move onto other things from there. Also, I know it sounds topical, but doing regulare exercise and trying meditation can really help you. Thanks to that, I'm more relaxed and confident in my own skin than never before. Just my two cents.

    Happy 2016 for you and for everyone!

    • A Eve on 2015-12-29 20:13:29 (UTC)

      thank you so much, and I'm very glad you're feeling more relaxed and confident!

  • cen21 on 2015-12-28 17:37:19 (UTC)

    Thank you!

    I have often been told that I should commit more in dating websites (tinder, etc..) if I want to find a girl, while I was thinking that it would be better to spend time focusing on myself (activities, lifestyle).
    I was starting to doubt, but now I see that I am not the only one thinking that way!

    • A Eve on 2015-12-29 20:13:13 (UTC)

      No you aren't! It's a great idea to explore more of your own interests, no matter what happens

  • Pogo on 2015-12-28 02:42:34 (UTC)

    Thank you Eve, that really pointed out a lot of things I need to remember for the year ahead xx

    • A Eve on 2015-12-28 13:26:06 (UTC)

      I'm so glad! Thank you for listening, and all the best in 2016 💋

  • SomeRandomGuy on 2015-12-28 00:01:02 (UTC)

    Now I totally have a valid reason for why I don't have any plans on New Year's Eve! I'm just keeping safe like Eve told me to!

    • A Eve on 2015-12-28 13:26:23 (UTC)

      haha I just said don't drink and drive, I didn't say don't do anything :D

  • LonelyFenrir on 2015-12-27 23:35:03 (UTC)

    This is great advise. Something I'll have to keep in mind over the new year. Maybe once school starts up and I see how much time I have between that and work, I'll try to find someplace to volunteer or a group to join. I really need to become more social.

    • A Eve on 2015-12-28 13:27:40 (UTC)

      Aww, well I think it's a challenge for most of us. I need to take my own advice, in fact. I tend to get so caught up in work (and when you're self-employed there's no network of work colleagues to socialize with) that I really miss just being able to hang out with people.

      Here's to a better 2016 for everyone ❤️