Under the Covers with Eve - Episode 25: Loneliness

21:40 Under the Covers with Eve episode 25 / 34 Feb 28, 2016 9 comments 1489 321

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This week I discuss loneliness in general - this isn’t a soothing audio, you can check out my Sweet Nothings and other audios for that - this is just a general discussion about the condition of loneliness, what might cause it, and some things you can do about it.

Links mentioned in the audio:

Loneliness of social media

Is social media to blame?

Dr. Sherry Terkle’s Ted Talk - this TED talk is 4 years old at this point, so I’m curious as to what Dr. Turkle would say now, would she say that we are even more connected but disconnected?

The Unplugged Experiment

Pets help with loneliness


Other audios in Under the Covers with Eve

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  • JJJ on 2016-02-29 10:55:41 (UTC)

    Can I just say how amazing it's been that you've done an Under the Covers with Eve for the past 25 weeks? The episodes are something I look forward to on every Sunday, either so I can listen them just as they come out or so I can listen to them on Monday morning.
    You've become a big part of my life thanks to this series, as a very welcome addition to the 'Renaissance of Me' project I've been working on for the last year or so. I just feel like I can't thank you enough for that! ❤️

    • A Eve on 2016-02-29 23:08:10 (UTC)

      Thank you so much, I'm so glad!

  • STEVE4EVE on 2016-02-29 04:03:13 (UTC)

    Thank you, Eve, for your thoughtful, balanced, practical insights. Very helpful.

    A lady who lived alone once told me that being alone can be the perfect time to become all one. It took me decades to find out how true that is.

    • A Eve on 2016-02-29 23:08:38 (UTC)

      that's lovely! Thank you

  • RedKnight on 2016-02-29 02:30:02 (UTC)

    So, per the conclusion, it's okay that I love you and think that you're awesome? :)

    • A Eve on 2016-02-29 23:08:47 (UTC)

      haha it's quite okay :D

  • NowhereMan on 2016-02-29 00:48:22 (UTC)

    The timing of this edition of the show couldn't have come at a better time. On the Sweet Nothings dealing with loneliness, I commented saying that I've been having problems dealing with loneliness and this week it really came to a point where I was at an all time low both mentally and emotionally. I hated myself, and I woke up thinking, "Why bother?" It's funny that you mentioned FOMO (feeling of missing out) because I think that's exactly what my loneliness stems from. I've seen so many other people get into loving relationships and I want that more than anything. As happy as I am for those other people, it reminded me of what I don't have and what I felt I never could have. After going through the mental anguish, I came to the conclusion that I need to turn my life around. I'm trying to be out in public more, I'm trying to lose weight, and I'm going to try and be more social. I've had an awakening and I look forward to life now. It's amazing what a change in attitude and a new outlook on life can accomplish, and the world just seems brighter and amazing. I hope to find that special someone, and I'll do whatever it takes to have that happen. I'm never going to feel alone again.

    • STEVE4EVE on 2016-02-29 03:32:55 (UTC) (edited)

      Great to hear your newfound resolve. May I suggest you set it free from the word "trying". "Trying" sounds like hard work, and the effort turns everything into a difficult, stressful task.
      Instead, choose to say things like "I'm enjoying being out in public more. I'm enjoying getting into better shape. I'm enjoying being more sociable..." See the difference? This is something that helped me. Hope it helps you, too.
      Oh...and your enjoyment will be far more attractive than "trying" to your specal lady, when you find each other. And she'll much more appreciate you enjoying your time together, whatever you do, rather than "trying" for a result.

      • NowhereMan on 2016-03-01 00:04:46 (UTC)

        Honestly, that's a great way to put it. Thank you for the advice!