Under the Covers with Eve - Episode 13: Lurkers

18:22 Under the Covers with Eve episode 13 / 34 Dec 06, 2015 29 comments 1702 252

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I managed to record this week's episode the night before The Cold From Hell (is that an oxymoron?) ravaged my voice...

This week I focus on you...yes you...Lurky McLurkenstein...the one who listens faithfully but never comments or messages....

Don't worry...I'm not mad :) I love all my listeners ❤️

music by E-Train


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  • Wills on 2017-01-16 23:33:09 (UTC)

    I appreciate your work and that of your peers.
    I should comment more here and elsewhere.

    I think for me the issue is that as I have grown older my world has diminished, reaching the point where it's split nearly evenly between the office and home. I really don't interact with people except in a commercial manner - working for clients, paying the grocery people or the delivery person. I think I have forgotten how.

    If someone helps me IRL, holding the door or letting me cut in line, of course I would say "Thank you". That's part of the glue that makes society work. I should do the same thing in this electronic society.

    I will.endeavor to take your comments to heart and comment more.

    Thank you for all your work. It has diminished the feelings I do not like.

    • A Eve on 2017-01-17 15:32:40 (UTC)

      Aw, thanks Wills, and thank you for coming forward to comment. It really does mean more than you think. It isn't easy to put yourself out there repeatedly, especially in a sexual area, and be greeted with silence, so thank you ❤️

  • Sandwich on 2016-09-01 13:32:18 (UTC)

    Funny, i was listening to some other episodes of this series yesterday evening (the rejection one) and i was going all day today thinking that i should put a comment. Then today when i got home i decided to click this before commenting :) ... You have some really clever things to say, and you made me think a lot about life, thank you for that.

    • A Eve on 2016-09-01 18:38:52 (UTC)

      thank you, I really appreciate it. And thanks for commenting 💋

  • Db2112 on 2016-07-02 06:31:05 (UTC)

    Reason number 6 as to why I don't comment on a lot of things: I've forgotten my login info and am too lazy to recover it to make a goofy comment at that moment.

    • A Eve on 2016-07-02 10:24:21 (UTC) (edited)

      Well consider this - aren't you glad the woman who made the audio you liked wasn't too lazy to make it? She could say "Yeah, I could make some goofy audio but I'm too lazy".

      If you're glad she makes the effort, you should too. And comments aren't goofy, they are what keep most people doing this at all. Silence from listeners is what makes a lot of women stop doing this.

  • Andresson on 2016-01-23 20:18:04 (UTC)

    On GWA the audios I enjoy are fairly rare and, without exception, already freighted with comments and upvotes. So I guess my participation there could be more accurately categorized as "quiet stalker" than lurker. ;)

    I'm enjoying catching up on your podcasts. Thanks for making them!

    • A Eve on 2016-01-24 23:38:58 (UTC)

      You're very welcome, thanks for listening ❤️

  • lowcountry on 2016-01-05 00:38:54 (UTC)

    Clap, clap!!

    I'm a lurker, for sure. I'm also an introvert, meaning I really have no desire to put my thoughts "out there", and also, I'm married to someone who would not approve of my being on your website at all.

    But boy do I approve of what you're doing! I listened to almost all your postings on Literotica this weekend, and I must say, I am smitten.

    • A Eve on 2016-01-05 15:17:56 (UTC)

      Well thank you! And I do understand, if you're unable to enjoy erotic audio because of a domestic disturbance doing so would cause, I fully understand :D

  • Pogo on 2016-01-01 03:12:45 (UTC)

    I think I'd appreciate a new stalker ;)

    More seriously though, I think you've summed up a lot of my fears on this one. Although I was brought up to be gentlemanly and polite, there's a basic response that's going to occur whenever I visit the site and although I don't think you need every single detail, it's often difficult to know what - if anything - I should say. That's not your fault, it's society and social media.

    Its may be difficult to show that I respect you as an artist (which I do, completely) yet also show that I've enjoyed the results of listening to you without sounding crass. I'm not sure if there is a way to explain 'that' result politely :P

    You post some amazing content on here but thinking 'Oooh, Eve's arse! Oh... hang on, I shouldn't say anything' despite wishing to pay compliments is challenging. While my comments would be made in fun and I have little doubt you'd take it as anything else, I've been burned by it before and I think that may be common among many guys here.

    One thing I do appreciate though is that you've addressed this. It makes it easier :)

    • A Eve on 2016-01-02 11:27:15 (UTC) (edited)

      Thank you! I know that this is a tricky area for a lot of guys, and I do understand. One of my dear listeners, Samuel Enderby, summed it really well - context is everything. If I put audios out there designed to give you sexual pleasure, then it's more than okay to let me know you enjoyed it. If I put my photos out there for your enjoyment, same thing. I think as long as you remain polite in your responses - and you can still say "Wow I squirted so far I hit the ceiling fan" politely! - it will always be fine. ❤️

      • Pogo on 2016-01-02 21:26:36 (UTC)

        In that case I commend you on your wonderful derrière, but if I really did manage to hit the ceiling I think I'd have to tell more people than just yourself. I think I want putting in an exhibit! "Come one and all and see the wunderkind who hits the ceiling!" We'd make a fortune ;)

        • A Eve on 2016-01-04 12:57:38 (UTC)

          haha no kidding!

  • TheSpiderInTheCorner on 2015-12-26 03:07:54 (UTC)

    Ok here we go jumping in the deep end.
    I am a lurker and shall remain such, but for now I have some thoughts regarding men's paradoxical response toward sex and sexual content. I've been thinking lately that there a certain amount of shaming of male libido in society. We hear things like 'men are dogs' or 'pigs' painting us as mindless slaves to our desires and as a child they can stick in your head and you grow up afraid to even look at a girl because you don't want get labelled as a creep. Combine this with typical male animal drives and suddenly you have a human that wants it and a person that is convinced they shouldn't want it.
    That's my 2 cents. Keep on rockin' Eve. PEACE!!

    Back to shadows....

    • A Eve on 2015-12-26 20:58:13 (UTC)

      Aww, well then thank you for coming forward to say this much at least. I appreciate it! And I do understand what men go through, don't worry. ❤️

  • leytod on 2015-12-10 19:01:43 (UTC)

    You just can't seem to make a bad episode of UTC! Another great one!

    Here's my problem; you're so unbelievably creative and productive that I fall behind! But don't stop!

    I would like also add the importance of adding comments and clicking the "like" button for your works on sites like YouTube. You have obviously had a terrible time with censorship and positive comments help to give credibility that your work is truly supported by many people.

    • A Eve on 2015-12-12 20:18:56 (UTC)

      Thank you! That's a good point, getting upvotes in other places really counts

  • GhostWombat on 2015-12-10 06:41:20 (UTC)

    I'm usually a lurker. I've got different reasons for different places online, but my two most consistent reasons are 1) overthinking my comments into oblivion, and 2) not wanting to creep on women.

    #1 is a pretty strong one for me. I want to write something cogent and meaningful, so I sit there thinking for a while until I realize that I've sat around for half an hour thinking about a comment on a 2 minute video. That's about when I throw in the towel.

    #2 - I'm not really personally worried about being found out and shamed for an internet comment in real life. It's not like I'm going to post something so weird or toxic that someone would feel compelled to find out who I am. It's more that if the content creator is a woman, I would strongly prefer to not make a comment that makes her feel uncomfortable. Sure, it would be a small drop in the bucket compared to the real vitriol everywhere, but even adding the slightest discomfort is something I would like to avoid. This is probably a subset of reason #1.

    Yeah, so I'm highly neurotic.

    Anyhoo... Eve, I think your UtC series covers a lot of interesting topics in a thoughtful and accessible manner. This one sure stuck with me.

    Be well.

    • A Eve on 2015-12-10 15:05:13 (UTC)

      Well, it's very much appreciated that you don't want to make a woman feel uncomfortable. As I said, if a woman is posting erotic content she's okay with you just writing to say "Thanks, I really liked this" or similar. And as Samuel Enderby said, we know you are going to get sexual pleasure from what we do, it's not unwelcome if you write and say that you did. It's only when comments become crass, too pushy, too vulgar or too personal that things become unpleasant.

  • IListenForTheArticles on 2015-12-09 18:37:28 (UTC)

    I enjoy your Under the Covers' episodes, especially the one about missed signals from women (and funny stories from reddit).

    I plan to clap at the end of the upcoming Star Wars movie (if it's amazing).

    With regards to people rearranging furniture into names, I imagine performers have to worry a lot more about crazy fans rather than the other way around.

    Strong work.

  • Grammario on 2015-12-09 01:16:38 (UTC)

    The word "lurk" (lurking) is actually much older than the internet.
    The Online Etymology Dictionary state:
    lurker: "one who lurks," early 14c., agent noun from lurk (v.)
    lurk: . 1300, lurken "to hide, lie hidden," probably from Scandinavian (compare dialectal Norwegian lurka "to sneak away," dialectal Swedish lurka "to be slow in one's work"), perhaps ultimately related to Middle English luren "to frown, lurk"

    • A Eve on 2015-12-09 20:33:24 (UTC)

      Oh I love the origin of words! :D

      I just meant the term "lurker" in terms of internet use, which seems to be about 20 years old at this point, about as old as the internet itself

  • SomeRandomGuy on 2015-12-07 20:50:19 (UTC)

    I would just like to say that I enjoy your work.

    blogpost inc :
    I guess I am what you call a lurker, however I am not a lurker because the reasons you listed, as I am not ashamed of sexual content and the like (as a guy who has been jerking it since he was 4 years old and is now 22, being ashamed of this is beyond me), since me and my friends regularly share things we think the other likes (this is also how I was introduced to you).
    The reason for why I am a lurker is simply because it is in my nature. The environment and the way I was treated as I grew up molded me into some passive sideline person.

    However, this audio has inspired me to try to bring some positive feedback, as I have firsthand experience in what it's like to never receive positive feedback on one's work. Although the way I can provide such feedback is pretty limited, since I do not browse reddit regularly nor do I have a reddit account. And I wish it to stay that way, as I am not fond of reddit at all. Biggest reason being what you mentioned in this very audio.
    /blogpostEnd

    • A Eve on 2015-12-08 22:00:09 (UTC)

      Thank you very much, I really appreciate your comment. I understand if it's not in people's nature to comment publicly, that's fine. I just wanted people to be able to get over any sense of embarrassment they might have

  • Wingnut on 2015-12-07 06:52:14 (UTC)

    Hey! I posted here before this. I'm not a lurker. :p

    One thing that kinda has held me back before however is possibly coming across as the bringer of something the poster might not want to hear about and getting verbally slammed around for it. More specifically bringing up some ancient topic for an equally ancient audio they did that they'd rather forget about or just leave be let alone answer positively to seeing a desire for more of the same.

    • A Eve on 2015-12-07 12:42:54 (UTC) (edited)

      One of my listeners wrote a great comment about this when I posted this on my site

      Samuel Enderby's comment

      He discussed this idea, about how erotic audio performers are asking for your comments and know that you are being sexual with their content - so it's all good!

      As for bringing up anything you think the poster might not like, you can always private message them, or in my case email.

      I don't think I have any audios I'd rather forget about btw :D

  • 20DollarEarBuds on 2015-12-07 05:27:26 (UTC) (edited)

    Really liked this episode. Gave some really good insight into the view a content creator. The movie vs theater analogy really helped put it together too.

    One thing that got me thinking was when you mentioned the sense of embarrassment a lot of men feel about erotic audio. Seeing as I'm guilty of this, I find it to be due to the fact that erotic audio is a much smaller and more recent medium compared to erotic images and videos. Given more time to grow and reach more consumers I think it should take off pretty quickly.

  • MadWithLust on 2015-12-07 03:39:44 (UTC)

    Every time I've ever commented or messaged Eve, she has always been quite warm and friendly and I can't think of a time when she wasn't the coolest and most gracious person. So...if you think Eve will bite, just think about the kind of woman that would make the kind of sex-positive erotic audio that you're enjoying here!