Under the Covers with Eve - Episode 28: Refusing to Choose

20:46 Under the Covers with Eve episode 28 / 34 Mar 27, 2016 15 comments 1465 375

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This week, I'd like to check in with you on the Renaissance of You, and see how you're doing with that. And I'd also like to discuss something you might be unfamiliar with.

Do you find it hard to focus on just one thing in life? Have you been called scattered or unable to concentrate? Unfocused?

This episode helps dispel the idea that there's something wrong with being that kind of person. Links I mention in the audio follow below.

This episode is going to be my last regular weekly edition of Under the Covers. I’ve done 28 episodes, and enjoyed them all, but the self-imposed deadline of getting these out on time every week is really taking a toll. I’d like to be able to focus on erotic audio more, as well, and on top of that, I’d like to spare my voice a bit. Recording something daily is also taking a toll, and as much as I love doing everything I do, I want to take care of my voice.

So this isn’t the last episode ever - I am working on a major project with some fine ladies from GWA that will hopefully be up next week. But after that, I’ll just post these episodes when time and inspiration allows. Thank you to everyone who’s listened over the past six months, just knowing you come back to listen every week is very flattering. I’ve enjoyed your comments and messages, and I hope these episodes have given you some food for thought. ❤️


Infographic on late bloomers

For the Directionless

Da Vinci’s resume

Hildegarde of Bingen


Introduction to Scanners

Khan Academy

Jack of All Trades at fourhourworkweek.com

Barbara Sher's Youtube series

Other audios in Under the Covers with Eve


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  • CharlieRomeoLima on 2017-04-04 02:46:07 (UTC)

    I think as a kid I might've been a scanner when it came to reading. I probably read over half the books in my school's library, on all sorts of non-fiction ranging from astronomy, to geology, to dinosaurs, to ancient civilizations. I don't think I was a particularly scholastic student, but the eclectic factoids I picked up from reading all those books cemented my status as a brain among my peers for years. :) For the record, math is also my Achilles heel. I'm fascinated by scientific discoveries, but my brain gets all frazzled when I see the explanatory equations and algorithms. :P

    I so needed to hear this. I'm one of the scanner cases doing low-paying/low-status jobs because I cannot commit to a single career path, compounded by the possibility that I may NEVER know what my career path is. I thought about the lucrative skilled trades, but I wouldn't want to be a pipe fitter or electrician my whole life. I do like variety. I work at one company where I wear several hats from client-facing to back-end operations positions, and I'm really getting a comprehensive view of that company's workings because of that. And despite a lower income I don't really worry over much about home ownership in a city where even married, well-salaried professionals with dual incomes are already finding it difficult to afford homes and start families. I prefer to focus on what I do have, among them a computer that can connect to the Internet.

    So I finally get to hear why you turned away from a lucrative and high-status field like medicine, when so many students are absolutely DYING to get in. I wasted the first two years of my time in university trying to gain admission to the BSc. pharmacy program which is just as competitive, but I was hopeless at calculus and organic chem. And in the back of my mind I knew it was also the pressure of expectation from family rather than what I was good at and wanted to do. Had I found myself on the pre-med track and turned aside, I think I would've been practically disowned, haha.

    I really admire your determination to succeed despite the long odds, and that fortuitous moment of mental clarity about your future and what you wanted to do with your life, not to mention the impressive feat of plotting an entire novel in less than a day (I gotta start listening to this soon!) Still, it must've felt like a huge sacrifice at the time to drop two years of grueling effort. I know it did for me, but thanks in no small part to your sage advice I know now to grieve for that loss and put away the regret for good.

    Another marvelous episode of Under the Covers, Eve. Thank you so much! **wipes away a tear**

    • A Eve on 2017-04-07 22:53:35 (UTC)

      Aww, I'm so glad you're enjoying these Charlie! 💋

  • TheSnakeInTheGarden on 2016-05-18 18:00:43 (UTC)

    Damn it, Eve. You keep teaching me new things about myself everyday by simply listening to you, and managing to awaken new corners of my life.

    You are living the good life. Even if you don't have everything that you dreamed of, but trust me, I know it in you that you are happy already the way you are and the life you live today.

    Thanks to this audio, I realized and managed to ressurect my inner scaner, and now, I know what I should do with my life and my future.

    I'm grateful to come across your page and your audios. You mean a lot to me, Eve. For what you have thought me, there isnko way that ai can pay you back for this. But I will do this, I will make a great future for myself and to raise my family out of poverty.

    • A Eve on 2016-05-18 18:17:11 (UTC)

      That's so great to hear! Thank you!

    • A Eve on 2016-04-20 11:41:36 (UTC)

      Oh he sounds great, I'll definitely look him up :D

  • leytod on 2016-03-30 22:34:05 (UTC)

    I think you're wise to loosen the schedule and do UTC episodes on an "as inspired" basis. They're my favourite (so far) of your works so I hope that we haven't heard the last of them.

    • A Eve on 2016-03-30 22:40:29 (UTC)

      Aw, thank you! I won't stop altogether, it's just a schedule thing. Thank you though, that's very nice to hear :D

  • YouAreMySunshine on 2016-03-28 08:01:03 (UTC) (edited)

    You fatiguing your vocals for the "self imposed deadline" is the worst we all would expect of you!!
    Please don't go out of your way for doing these audios,
    Because if You ain't gonna be well, we ain't gonna be well!
    And don't worry about any delay in uploading your audios, because the delay will definitely end up making it all the more sweeter!! :)
    And this episode, like every other episode, is right on point!
    You own a piece of my heart, You're an angel in disguise!!
    Take care ♥

    • A Eve on 2016-03-28 11:47:38 (UTC)

      Aw, thank you. It makes me feel so good to know you guys are behind me on this. Thank you 💋

  • FallenKnight71 on 2016-03-28 04:03:50 (UTC) (edited)

    Can't wait to listen to this before I go to bed m'lady Eve:) Anything you need to do to save that wondrously beautiful voice then do it. All of us here want to enjoy you and your fantastic audios for a long long time:D

    • A Eve on 2016-03-28 11:47:11 (UTC)

      Thank you! I want to keep making them! ❤️

  • STEVE4EVE on 2016-03-28 02:18:13 (UTC)

    Eve, you did become a doctor, a very good one. This perspective, like so much of what you do, is very healing.

    Thanks especially for prescribing a regular dose of Barbara Sher. Isn't she wonderful!

    About learning lots of different things... there's a great TED talk by Josh Kaufmann who explains how we can learn anything in 20 hours.

    Best wishes, Eve, for all your upcoming projects.

    • A Eve on 2016-03-28 11:48:05 (UTC)

      Aw, thank you! What sweet things you say, my dear friend. ❤️

  • cuddle_with_me on 2016-03-27 20:45:08 (UTC) (edited)

    I'm a restless soul with my fingers in many pots too and a habit of feeling bad about not finishing stuff. I'd be interested in your take on starting projects but not getting them done, vs using many of your disparate talents. Da Vinci obviously managed to keep a lot of things on a slow burn, I'm sure interspersed with bursts of focus on one or a few things. That's what we all do but more or less successfully, and I very often feel like my gut wants to eat me from the inside when I don't make "enough" progress on stuff.

    This was a good episode and I'm happy that you shared that personal note with us. It's the first time I've heard the term Scanner! (The nerd in me notes that the old standard for scanners, the ones you plug into computers and swear at, was called TWAIN, which brings to mind Mark Twain, who sounds like a Scanner personality...)

    I am looking forward to future UTC episodes arriving on a schedule that doesn't stress you out, is easy on your voice and stays interesting. 😘

    • A Eve on 2016-03-27 20:56:33 (UTC)

      Thank you cuddles! TWAIN, that brings back memories!

      Barbara Sher's books talk a lot about that kind of malaise one feels when you don't get enough done. I'd recommend them!