Ask Eve - The Virginity Episode

23:12 Ask Eve Apr 15, 2015 31 comments 16896 2609

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My answers to your questions about virginity.

And here are the virginity audios I mentioned -

The Gift

The Gift - Part 2

The Gift - Part 3

Hot for my Virgin - Part 1

Hot For My Virgin - Part 2

The Virgin Bridegroom 💋

Other audios in Ask Eve


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  • johnamundo on 2021-10-07 18:17:00 (UTC) (edited)

    I was a virgin till 27. Yes, it bothered me. But while not religious or moralistic, I was not up for "just doing it." I wanted it to be right and mutual and all that good stuff. And besides, I was not all that good around women (for reasons I won't go into here), despite the image other people had of me They never suspected a thing. Once when I was 23 I had a GF who was 29 and divorced. (She had come on to me!) Once during some couch sex-chat I confided that I was still a virgin. Instead of thinking it was cute, charming, endearing or just curious, she thought it was weird and hysterical! I was more angry at myself for trusting her than mad at her. That screwed me up even more for the next several years.

    • A Eve on 2021-10-12 19:34:55 (UTC)

      I'm sorry to say that the wrong person can definitely screw you up based on thoughtless comments, insulting 'jokes' etc. I've been through that too, a guy stopped calling me once when he found out I was a virgin, and that really made me feel terrible.

  • Vermouth1991 on 2018-05-11 15:18:50 (UTC)

    I'm in my late 20s and still a virgin. Well, I haven't had physical sex yet, but I've sexted a lot and had some pretty mindblowing voice-message sex with the girl I'm dating long distance. We both wish to meet one day and maybe see wht haopens from there, but before that, giid sex ed on the topic of virginity such as what Eve recorded here will always be great help for me. :) I learned to have a positive outlook on this aspect of my life. Thank you so much!

    • A Eve on 2018-07-21 09:55:49 (UTC)

      You're very welcome - as you know, I think the term 'virgin' is way too stringently applied. Making it all about PIV sex is far too limiting.

  • MGShadow1989 on 2018-05-04 23:22:32 (UTC)

    I lost my virginity at 13, and I don't feel any regret or negativity towards it.

    It just, happened, somehow; an older neighbours friend took a liking to me, and my sister who is 11 years older than me, was at college/uni at the time studying to get into nursing, so she made sure I wasn't utterly clueless about the biology of it. 16 years later and I still remember her saying "I know all I can do is advise you not to, but here, at least use one of these if you're going to do it" as she handed me a pack of condoms.

    I'm not sure if it's a direct consequence, but I feel that this helped me mature sexually - if it wasn't for this, I don't think I would have been as patient or attentive when I had my first proper girlfriend at 18. I felt like it was my responsibility to make sure her first time was at least pleasant, and I may have ruined it had I been a virgin myself.

  • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-05-21 11:30:24 (UTC)

    Very good advice Eve and I do believe that you are altering my perceptions on my own virginity. I'm beginning to see this,as you put it, an advantage. It's frustrating at times to find myself in a place a lot of men would consider odd and surprising that from teens onward I didn't go pursuing casual sex with multiple partners! As you allude to, life happens that doesn't permit this.For varieties of reasons. Now, I feel like my life is almost working in reverse, at least in terms of my sexuality. I'm in a more aware and mature state at least emotionally and mentally and know what I want to achieve from life in general. So, I agree wholeheartedly with you when you advsise guys to value their virginity as an advantage or an asset to be treasured, despite advancing years. To think very carefully about hiring sex workers just to allow them to lose their virginity. I don't think I could do this now. It would seem like a quick fix soloution to a situation which I know I can emerge from as a better, more rounded individual. I am curious about the point you make on female virgins and bleeding due to a broken Hymen. How profuse can the bleeding be? Thank you Eve for your very insightful comments. Lea.

    • A Eve on 2017-05-21 14:26:08 (UTC)

      Some women can bleed so much they need to go to the hospital, some women don't bleed at all. It really depends on the individual. Most women have a little bit of blood.

      • LeaDavenport1968 on 2017-05-21 23:13:35 (UTC)

        Of the two, male or female virgins, I think female are given the biggest raw deal by Mother Nature. I had no idea some could bleed so badly!We guys are fortunate! Lea.

        • A Eve on 2017-05-22 18:24:33 (UTC)

          As I said, some girls don't have any trouble. But you're right, we ladies do get some pretty awful deals from old mother nature...

  • FrenchBliss on 2016-12-14 17:53:30 (UTC)

    Hi darlin', have you uploaded that recording on YouTube ? Because it would be very very important for many young men and women to hear this...
    Kisses, that was very smart and loving as usual and it will inspire me whenever I have advice to give to a youngster wondering about the pressure of his/her virginity.

    • A Eve on 2016-12-15 16:43:02 (UTC)

      I haven't uploaded this yet, I'm working on expanding my Youtube presence, this one will definitely be on the list ❤️

  • YouAreMySunshine on 2016-01-03 18:08:40 (UTC)

    Until the time there are women like you on this earth, this world will remain sexually sane and emotionally healthy!!
    They way you have portrayed your insights on this matter, and the sense of honesty, the truthfulness in your opinions is just truly uplifting.Atleast for me because I used to be kinda shy when it came to even confronting my female colleagues, forget talking about sex and sex related stuff!!
    But today I'm very much mature and you are one of the reasons that I am maturing all the more!!
    You seemed to have answers to every problem or question that I had when it came to this concern!!
    I'm 19 now and, HELL YEAH, I'm a virgin and I'm happy about the fact that I haven't lost my virginity in the wrong place at the wrong time and most importantly to some wrong person.And I'm definitely gonna be patient and wait for the right person!
    And, I know you must be tired of hearing this,but,
    YOUR VOICE GIVES ME EARGASMS, just melts my heart!!
    Please keep up your amazing work and thanx a ton for everything you do!!! :) :)

    • A Eve on 2016-01-04 12:58:10 (UTC)

      haha eargasms - awesome! Thank you so much ❤️

  • DvSDragon on 2015-04-19 21:58:35 (UTC)

    Honestly I've been lurking about for a couple of months on GWA, made a few rare comments here and there and have been a great fan for a while now i suppose, thus i wanted to thank you for all these amazing ear-candies. Truthfully i haven't found the one yet but with this episode of Ask Eve i have certainly gotten some enlightenment on the topic. ;)

    Also i can't resist... but after listening to The Gift series my mind was just blown,
    personally i feel they are like the Disney equivalent of porn if that makes any sense..? xD
    They made me sad, tingly, happy, laugh, dreamy, hot and bothered obviously and even tear up at times just because it was so beautifully done! :3

    The way you are able to convey and express these things in your audios just keeps amazing me over and over again..
    Sincerely thank you so very much for making them! <3

    • A Eve on 2015-04-20 09:57:02 (UTC)

      Wow, thank you so much! The Disney of Porn! LOL...that's a first! 💕

      • DvSDragon on 2015-04-21 19:53:32 (UTC)

        Haha.. yes.. xD ..well i didn't know how else to put it,
        and i do love both..!

        Hmm maybe an idea for the future.. ? ;P

        • A Eve on 2015-04-22 11:07:45 (UTC)

          Not a bad idea! In fact I think I might add that as my tag line - "Eve's Garden: The Disney of Porn™...

          At least until the Cease and Desist letter shows up!

          • DvSDragon on 2015-04-22 13:51:51 (UTC)

            LOL ... well okay maybe not "that" kind of idea.. xD
            Though it does have a nice ring to it.

            I'm not really great at writing anything remotely like that for some kind of example even though i am a creative mind, but i suppose essentially it comes down to a romanticized version of some kind of story.

            Besides bumping Ariel might proof challenging for numerous reasons.. ;P

            • A Eve on 2015-04-23 09:08:29 (UTC)

              Haha true! I just loved the idea of it, the Disney of Porn, I thought it was great! All the feels!

  • MyLove1 on 2015-04-19 02:26:30 (UTC)

    Everything is great except one thing. The size of the files you are uploading now days are very big. Please compress them before uploading or convert them to other format like on Take it as a suggestion. Stay sexy!

    • A Eve on 2015-04-19 10:18:16 (UTC)

      Thanks, I can compress them from now on.

  • latebloomer on 2015-04-19 00:43:25 (UTC)

    Thanks for making this! I just discovered your audio program today and this one in particular really hit home and was relatable.

    I (M) personally lost my virginity last year at the age of 24 to a friend that I really care about and it was an amazing experience. I took my time and she was understanding of the whole process and helped guide me through it...

    The intimacy was great and I frequently think of how amazing that night was. When I was younger I was quite hung-up over the idea of losing it due to societal pressures, but I'm glad I waited for someone I truly cared about to share this experience with.

    My only issue during that night was that I lasted for nearly two hours and still could not finish haha. It was probably due to nerves, but my partner was understanding. Hearing another girl's perspective on it definitely makes me more comfortable.


    • A Eve on 2015-04-19 10:19:30 (UTC)

      Thank you so much! I'm so glad you liked it, and I'm very glad you had a good first experience. And don't worry about 'not finishing' - maybe that was something I should have addressed. It's not all about that, it's more about enjoying the experience

  • jdoe1234567 on 2015-04-18 23:08:25 (UTC)

    Maybe a future episode on problems encountered during sex?

    Like, premature ejaculation (where the guy can't even last for 60 seconds after penetration)?

    • A Eve on 2015-04-18 23:20:23 (UTC)

      Oh great idea! Thanks!

  • MadWithLust on 2015-04-18 17:33:46 (UTC)

    As always, many good points. I do agree with you that it's a shame that most men and women do not have great first times. I think a first time should be more about making love than sex. A little more time and love would go a long way towards making a first time great. I think, for most people, their opinions on sex and sex in general would be so much better if they started out with the great experience sex is meant to be.

    Kind of like in The Gift...definitely have to give that another listen! :P

    • A Eve on 2015-04-18 21:02:24 (UTC)

      Thanks, sweetie! That's what I think too!

  • Steakumz on 2015-04-18 04:59:12 (UTC)

    Really enjoyed this episode, any idea for what the next episode will be about? Also do you have any plan for release schedule? Weekly? Monthly?

    • A Eve on 2015-04-18 08:24:03 (UTC)

      Thank you! Well I guess that will depend on the kind of questions and requests I get. I don't really have a schedule in mind, but at least every couple of weeks I imagine.

  • cuddle_with_me on 2015-04-18 00:28:10 (UTC)

    Heartfelt, informative and loving as always. I've still got my card but I can't wait to make the most of it - to share the sexuality you made me realize was there all along with another woman and to have an awesome, lovely time together.

    I can highly recommend the series mentioned. Eve didn't link them yet but just click on the "virginity" tag in grey just below the title and a listing will come up with all three audios. They are radiantly amazing and collectively just about the best thing I've ever heard. 💖

    • A Eve on 2015-04-18 08:24:44 (UTC)

      awww, you sweet thing! C'mere....pussar och kramar....🐥💋