This list was put together by a listener, to help everyone out there who has trouble achieving HFO or is interested in trying. Thanks JJ!
- Kegle clench workouts.
This exercise, unlike other so called "tricks" of artificially enhancing the penis has proven medical benefits for men that include strengthening of the pelvic floor muscles, better endurance during intercourse, greater pleasure for the male during sex and some report a small increase in length (this last one isn't medically confirmed yet). More doctors are recommending men engage in this exercise for all the above reasons but also for later in life issues men may experience and the younger the man is when they start these exercises the better. For HFO'ing, this helps "prime the pump" and ultimately achieve the HFO.
First, the guy needs to become aware of what muscles to target and the quickest way is the next time they go to urinate to activate the muscles to "pinch" and stop the flow, these are the muscles they need to target and the "pinching" action is what they need to do to strengthen the muscles. Once they know what muscles and how it's time to do the workout.
Warning: just like your strongly advised to start off small when weight lifting Kegle clinch exercises must be started small and slowly built up otherwise injury can result. It's therefor advised that if the guy feels a strain in the belly or anywhere in the groin region they need to dial it back a bit and to go a little slower.
The goal of these exercises is to be able to hold the clench for up to 5 seconds in reps of 20 up to 3-5 times a day. Once this is achieved the exercise can be dialed back to 3 times a week but should be maintained to keep the muscles from weakening as well as to keep the above mentioned benefits.
When first starting out each clench should last no more than 2 seconds per clench per rep. Once the guy is able to maintain this rate for a week he should increase the length of the hold by another second (the 1 Mississippi, 2 Mississippi, etc. is a good silent count to keep track).
Now this workout can be done at any time, sitting, standing or laying however legs should always be uncrossed when doing the workout and the penis can be flaccid or erect (erect however is easier to target the muscles and produces a stronger sensation).
- Imagination workout
Deep relaxation really depends on the subjects ability to visualize what the performer is directing them to see. Most if not all of us fall on a spectrum of how well they can imagine something, some can hardly imagine anything, most can visualize certain things when they put their mind to it and others can construct entire mental worlds that they can return to as if it's a real place complete with other sensations such i.e. Physical contact, smells, tastes, etc. but like the above workout, it's something that needs to be worked on and developed, fortunately if they have their senses they have the tools to do this.
Sight: the most widely used (some would say over used) sense. To practice this sense the person needs to really focus on something and study it from multiple angles and distances, an example would be to take a old fashioned number 2 pencil that's sharpened. First place it on a table with either a clean while clothes or paper and look st it from a distance of about 2 feet. Look at it from tip to eraser, paying attention to how the colors change from graphite to wood to paint to metal to eraser. Once you have studied the pencil at a distance some closer and repeat this time noting things like how the light plays on each section. Repeat again and this time focus on the imperfections, i.e. a chip in the graphite, the grain of the wood, any surpluses paint on the pencil or teeth marks from biting on it. The crimping of the metal and the texture of the eraser.
Once you've thoroughly studied the pencil with your eyes and can mentally visualize it clearly in your mind, it's time to move onto the next sense.
Touch: pick the pencil up and with your thumb and index finger gently pinch the pencil at one end. Close your eyes and slowly run your fingers up and down the whole length of the pencil, taking note of how each texture changes as you move up and down its length. How does the graphite feel? The grain of the wood, texture of the paint, shape of the pencil and so on. As you do this mentally call up the pencil and track your progress as you move from texture to texture.
Sound: take the pencil and white or scribble on a piece of paper with your eyes closed. How does it sounded as you were writing on the piece of paper? Turn the pencil around and now use the eraser, how does that sound? Now combine these three senses in your mind and visualize you holding the pencil, how it feels and the sounds of you writing and erasing as you do just that.
Smell/taste: fortunately these two senses are linked for the pencil example. Now while it might be a little weird to do this, it's recommended to smell the pencil in the same order we've been going in. Carefully smell the graphite (possibly the smudge on her finger tips from the touching exercise), the smell of the sharpened wood compared to the painted parts, the metal in the eraser.
The goal of this exercise is to build as complete a mental picture as possible using as many of our senses as possible. The longer we focus on something one sense at a time the strong the memory and thus mental image we have of it. Once the pencil exercise has been mastered the person should move on to other things as well, i.e. Food items, plants (like grasses), animals (cats, dogs, etc.) and so forth. Eventually this will train the brain to do this automatically and will increase overall awareness of the persons environment and recall which in turn will aid in creating the mental world for their encounter. This also has the added benefits of the guy naturally doing this with their partner (by that I mean being much more engaging to build a stronger memory).
- Peace of mind:
The best way to get over any apprehension this is to listen to the audio file after the induction has played and listen a couple of minutes at a time to the file. This lets the listener have the peace of mind that they're in control and can catch anything that they may not be comfortable listening to before trying to experience an HFO file.
Another potential issue can be simply be listening to the wrong file before the listener is ready, by this I mean a beginner probably shouldn't listen to a countdown type file or a multi HFO file before their ready (both physically and mentally).
These files can put a expectation to achieve the HFO under certain conditions that they may not be ready for (i.e. Actually having multiple HFO's and then failing to even have one). There are a number of files out there that the performer will tell the listener to orgasm whenever they want regardless of what's currently happening in the file, in short taking the expectation away and letting the listener relax deeper so they can achieve an HFO.
Let me know what you think!
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